Tuesday, November 04, 2008

Day 79. But That's Just The Way I Am!

Have you ever thought about how you see yourself? Anna Johnson, author of Three Black Skirts says if we see ourselves as messy, disorganized, not good with paper, then we will have plenty of excuses to fall back on, and we'll keep affirming the current habit or situation.

Sometimes we don't see that we're the ones reinforcing our beliefs about ourselves by the words we keep saying over and over. When our mind and heart, consciously and subconsciously, keep hearing things like, "I'm messy, I'm not good with grammar, I'm terrible at technical things", our inner self then strives to fulfill that message.

My Personal Experience. I used to say I was always tired. Every time I'd say I was tired, I'd feel even more tired. So I'd complain again about how weary I was, and every time I spoke the words, the more exhausted I felt.

One day it clicked that the more I confessed I was tired, the more exhausted I felt. I was actually perpetuating my tiredness by repeatedly telling myself that I felt that way. In essence, I was reaping the harvest of my words. So I stopped saying it. Believe me, it wasn't easy at first, I was so used to saying it all the time. But then gradually I began to notice a shift and my body started to actually feel less tired all the time.

Which to my way of thinking is why it's important to watch our vocabulary, as well as to be aware of thinking we can't change things because 'that's just the way we are'. There's so much evidence out there these days that indicates we can shift our thinking, so there's no reason why we have to continue that way, unless we truly prefer it.

If you're like me and ready to throw out the old excuses about why you are a certain way, look at what you're telling yourself and begin to change that unwanted message, and see if you don't begin to experience a shift. We don't have to be a victim of past habits -- we can change our minds for something better, something more beautiful.

Wishing you a beautiful day,


  1. good thoughts, sometimes it helps to write down and analyze what we are saying to ourselves in order to be able to get rid of it. if we talked to our best friend like we talk to our selves, they wouldn't be our friend for long. negative self talk is the norm

  2. Hi Lin,

    I agree that writing is a good tool. Personally, I think the best when I have pen in my hand.

    Yes, let's be kind to ourselves!

  3. Brilliant! Perfect post to set a positive tone for the upcoming months of winter and the doldrums they can bring.

    My husband is a retired Psychiatric therapist. One of the most basic things he had to do with his clients was correct negative or critical thinking errors. He called it "stinkin thinkin"

    Your words are full of wisdom and well worth re-reading from time to time. I think I'll do just that.


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