Wednesday, December 31, 2025

From My Archives: A Quilt Made of Days




"Each day is like a panel in a quilt. Some days are
ugly and some days are raw and some days are chaotic
and some days are colorful and some days are orderly
but if you keep adding them up they turn into something."
AUSTIN KLEON, "A Quilt Made of Days" online article

This piece was originally posted on my blog on December 30, 2023. As we wrap up the old year and greet the New Year, I'm sharing it with you hoping you won't mind seeing it again. Mom is now at home and doing well. We're well. We'll chat soon. —Brenda xo

'A quilt made of days.' That phrase—borrowed from Austin Kleon who wrote about his idea HERE—captivates my imagination. Although I am not a quilter, I am an ardent admirer of talented seamstresses, including my mom, who skillfully piece swatches of fabric into gorgeous patterns that become something beautiful and useful in one's home. Their creativity inspires me.

Perhaps that's why I gravitate towards creator/author Austin Kleon's words. His comment above seems particularly fitting as we stand on the cusp of a brand new year. The days yet to come in the new year are unknown to us but we guess that some will arrive bright and colourful; others will show up muted and dull, some will be raw with pain and filled with chaos. And still other days will arrive, thankfully, with calm and peace as the order of the day. To create an actual physical quilt, crafters start with a plan. They know the pattern they want to create; they have chosen their colour scheme. They carefully pick out the fabrics, cut them into the appropriate shapes, and sew them together into the design they dream about. When it comes to creating the more ethereal quilts made of days, in life we aren't given the materials ahead of time; we can't plan the pattern, we must make use of what appears. Still, if we pay attention we can make use of what shows up and gather the pieces—memories, experiences, events—that are our life story. We can watch as patterns emerge. We can learn to recognize the value each block brings to the developing design.

When I took a water colour painting course years ago, I came to see how paintings need contrasts: they need dark to show light, shadows to give depth and perception, darker backgrounds to set off brighter foregrounds. For me, I found the most important contrast was the juxtaposition of using something plain or dull, maybe even ugly, in order to set off a thing of beauty. It was a life lesson to learn that maybe we need ugly and pain to truly realize the immense value of beauty, order, peacefulness, and joy. I'd rather not experience the pain, but would I know the great joy without it to compare?

It's the same in the world of quilting with fabric... or the days of our lives.

I have always been drawn to Victorian crazy quilts (see the photo above for an example). Rather than blocks that march squarely into place, there's a kind of creative higgledy-piggledy that makes use of the tiniest bits of fabric alongside the larger pieces, all in various shapes, colours, textures, and patterns. Victorians would use scraps of fabric, often from worn out clothing and linens. They'd include swatches that had been handed down from one generation to the next—maybe from a great grandmother's wedding dress or a baby's christening gown—creating these lasting works of art that burst with texture and colour, embroidery and ribbonry. Fashioned from the days given to them.

As I said earlier, I'm not a quilter, but I'm mulling what a quilt made of days would look like for me. I'd probably fashion a 'quilt' from the bits and pieces of how my life unfolds in the new year, and rather than sew or craft with fabric or paint, I'd probably create a 'quilt' using words, watching for the patterns, hoping for more red letter days than chaotic ones. And when something ugly turns up, dear Lord, I'd want His help as I waited for the beauty when it isn't yet fully evident. Taking days as they come, all the while learning to walk with confidence and hopefulness, being comforted during trying moments embroidered with prayers, when laughter and cheer have flown off. There is something comforting about recognizing there's a bigger picture, one I cannot yet fathom, of One who is making all things work together for good, One who is creating something bigger than our individual lives. For in God's created world, we believe there is a greater plan and purpose, trusting that He is taking all things and fashioning them into something truly exquisite and out of this world.

I wonder what kind of a quilt it will become. With the craziness of life in our upside down world, I'm pretty certain my quilt of days will have its own slant on crazy quilt. While things happen to me and around me, it's also up to me to do something with what's given, whether I think a piece will fit or not. It's my job to creatively work my attitudes, gratitudes, prayers, and dreams, staying hopeful through the storm darkened days, enjoying the small joys 'that tip the balance towards hope' (a phrase borrowed from Sarah Clarkson). All the while imagining something beautiful... my own quilt made of days.



Happy New Year to you, dear beautiful friends!
With love and heart hugs,
Brenda

Photo credit:
Top Image by chenspec from Pixabay




Saturday, December 20, 2025

December Daybook




For Today

Outside my window...
It is cold and sunny with pale, clear skies. Lots of snow and waspish wind.
"It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas everywhere I go..."

I am thankful...
For a home that keeps me warm; a pantry full of food that nourishes me;
a husband who makes me laugh even though he keeps telling me
he doesn't know any funny stories;
for fingers that can hold a nice pen to write notes,
play the piano, or touch the face of a loved one.

Happy update about Mom...
After being in hospital for nearly six weeks, Mom is scheduled
to be discharged on Monday. She'll be home for Christmas.
Shall we do a happy dance here?
We are grateful for her improved well-being of body and mind.
She's more than ready to be at home in her familiar
surroundings and to pick up her life again.
It's a great Christmas present for her and us, her family!

Reminding myself daily...
When things in my world feel tilted sideways,
I don't need to line up all my ducks in a row.
There are things I have no control over—I can
only focus on what I can do today.
'Sufficient for the day.' God's mercies are new every morning,
His grace is sufficient in all things, His peace
undergirds everything when I lay down my frets and cares.
And I remember that joy is my strength and humour goes a long way, too.

I am wearing...
Black jeans with a black tee-shirt
and a spritz of Rose scent.

I am creating...
Quiet spaces in my day to let the Christmas spirit waft in as it will.
Whether on the strain of an old familiar carol or through a line I'm
reading or while watching afternoon shadows outside my
window wrap up another day.

I have recently finished and enjoyed...
The Story of Holly and Ivy by Rumer Godden
Christmas with Anne and Other Holiday Stories by L.M. Montgomery
Christmas at Thrush Green by Miss Read
Shepherds Abiding by Jan Karon

I am currently slow reading...
Winter Solstice by Rosamunde Pilcher
The Christmas Chronicles by Nigel Slater

Looking forward to two I haven't read yet...
Christmas Bells by Jennifer Chiaverini
The Old Peabody Pew: A Christmas Romance
of a Country Church by Kate Douglas Smith Wiggin (1907)

In my kitchen...
Yesterday there was a big pot of vegetable beef soup
simmering on the stove. Today a batch of Mom's recipe
of soft ginger cookies is almost ready for the oven.

One of my favourite things...
Finding beautiful cards and notepaper for writing
notes when the spirit moves. Especially at this time of year.
Although I don't do it as much as I used to, it still gives joy
to the sender and hopefully provides a 'happy surprise'
in a mailbox to the receiver.

I didn't have much time or energy for Christmas cards this season,
but what I did get done is now winging its way through the postal system.

Something I wrote a few years ago...

YOU KNOW WHAT I REALLY WANT
FOR CHRISTMAS?

I want to feel the magic of being five or six or seven again
When everything about the season was new and fresh and thrilling.

When I felt the tremble of expectancy as parcels
mysteriously appeared under the Christmas tree;

And the wait of three more sleeps grew so excruciating
I felt my body would burst from its skin.

When the HUSH of soft, holy moments hugged me like a blanket
As I sat mesmerized by tinsel glimmer and tree lights;

And the sweet, sweet strains of Away in a Manger
filled me with shivery delight.

Yes, I long to feel again the secret yearnings of a child's heart
for the inexpressible and the MIRACULOUS. . .

 As I wait in Wonder for the Christ Child.

* * *
Acknowledgement:
This piece was inspired by something I read in Robert Fulghum's
book, All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten.



I will be staying with my mom for a while
so I won't be here on the blog for now.

Wishing you a Happy Christmas.
I hope you will find moments of "merry" even
if things aren't as perfect as they ought to be.

Heart hugs to you all,
Brenda
Photo credits:
(Top) Image by Frauke Riether from Pixabay


Friday, December 05, 2025

Five on Friday: This and That




"Gradually there gathered the feeling of
expectation, Christmas was coming."
from The Rainbow by D.H. Lawrence


I'm still very much involved with Mom at this time - she's still in hospital - so I feel a little outside of normal life these days. Thankfully the Christmas spirit whispers between the moments... giving my heart a giggle of joy.


One. Oh, the weather outside

We've had fog and snow and sleet and rain. Sometimes all on the same day. The sun set today at 4:30 in the afternoon, and the nights are now as dark as the inside of a boot. But the full moon last evening peeped past the clouds...and glimmered in its shiny glory from that far away place. Straight into my heart which needed a bit of a lift after a busy day.


Two. Update on Mom

It's now over three weeks since Mom fell and ended up in the hospital. There were a few days last week when it felt like I was watching my mom disappear... word by fading word. For several days she couldn't find her words and it was horrid to watch her trying to grasp for phrases not quite within her reach. The speech therapist came by, and she so encouraging. She gave us a helpful layman's description of what happened when she fell and hit her head. A little like having a full filing cabinet knocked over. Nothing was lost, but everything's in a jumble and needs sorting, organizing, and putting back where it belongs. How precious is our ability to speak and communicate. It's what makes us human, I guess.

I'm happy to report she is doing much better this week. She's been slowly finding her words and stringing sentences together in her more 'usual' manner. We are relieved. She has now been transferred to a rehab hospital where she will be going back to 'school', as her doctor teased her, to get her speech back as much as possible. And make her ready for the next step - going home. Which they told us today might not be until after Christmas. She is getting such good care, we're grateful for her medical team.
  

Three. Hemming dresses and sleeves

The other day I was sitting by our Christmas tree with the lights on—bent over doing some hand stitching to shorten sleeves on a couple of tee-shirts Mom needed for her stay in the hospital. It made me think of long ago memories when Mom would be busy hand sewing lace or buttons or finishing hems on our new Christmas dresses. In that moment, I felt a connection in that memory to my beloved mother. She was sewing for me then, and I'm sewing for her now.

Today over on InScribe, I have shared a few of those old memories... it's a piece I wrote years ago and have since revised. You can find Whispers of Tissue and Chiffon HERE.


Four. 2025 reading goal wrap up

Last January I decided to tackle some of the roughly 130 to 150 books that are currently sitting on my 'to be read' shelves. They include new acquisitions, gifts, library sale books, and thrift store finds. As I see it, it never hurts to have a grand 'pantry' pile waiting in the wings—I always enjoy browsing the titles when looking for something new to read (and there's nothing new coming from Amazon).

From those shelves, I selected 33 titles to read during the coming year. To date, I have finished 25 books from that list. I won't finish any more as I'm now into my Christmas reading. If you want to see the list, check it out HERE

 
Five. Books for the holiday season

It's the season when we want to sing 'old familiar carols' and read our favourite seasonal books. There is something comforting about traditions - the same tree, the same decorations, the same recipes for special cookies and holiday meals, the same books that we remember with fondness from previous Christmases. It's tradition, we say.
 
There is one book I'm relying on at this time that, although not a seasonal one, fits as though it were. It's Reclaiming Quiet by Sarah Clarkson. In this Advent season we like to find those quiet moments where our hearts can listen and be in wonder and awe. Sarah's writing helps me do that. And even though it may be just a couple of pages at a sitting, her writing helps my heart settle and be at peace.

Here are a few of the Christmas stories and books I enjoy having around this time of year. I enjoy browsing here and there, picking a handful of favourites to get lost in on a cozy afternoon or evening (the four stars indicate my forever favourites). It's always fun to have choices from which to choose. And I'm always tickled when I discover a new book to add to the collection.

Nonfiction

Gospel of Luke, Chapter Two, KJV****
The Christmas Story

haphazard by starlight
A poem a day from Advent to Epiphany
by Janet Morley

Christmas Poems
by Wendy Cope

Winter Solstice, An Essay
by Nina MacLaughlin

The Christmas Chronicles****
by Nigel Slater (musings, recipes, traditions) 

Christmas (Recipes and Holiday Tips)
by Susan Branch

Home for Christmas (short memoir)
by Susan Branch

Fiction

Winter and Rough Weather
by D.E. Stevenson (gentle English novel)

The Country Child
by Alison Uttley (Children's Fiction)

Rumpole at Christmas
by John Mortimer (seasonal short stories)

A Child's Christmas in Wales
by Dylan Thomas (Children's Classic)

Christmas at Thrush Green
by Miss Read (gentle novel)

"The Adventure of the Blue Carbuncle"
by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle (Christmas mystery)

Once Upon A Wardrobe****
by Patti Callahan (Christmas Narnia-related novel)

An Irish Country Yuletide
by Patrick Taylor (Christmas novella)

An Irish Country Christmas**** 
by Patrick Taylor (novel)

A Christmas Carol (classic)
by Charles Dickens

The Adventure of the Christmas Pudding
by Agatha Christie (Poirot mystery)

Winter Solstice****
by Rosamunde Pilcher (novel set mostly in Scotland)

Small Things Like These
by Claire Keegan (novella set in Ireland at Christmas)

The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe****
by C.S. Lewis (Narnia series)

Little Women****
by Louisa May Alcott

Shepherds Abiding****
by Jan Karon

 A Christmas Memory
by Truman Capote

Christmas at Thompson Hall and Other Trollopian Stories (unread)
by Anthony Trollope (short stories)

Christmas Bells (unread)
by Jennifer Chiavernini

Christmas with Anne and Other Short Stories
by L.M. Montgomery

Midwinter Murder, Fireside Tales
by Agatha Christie

The Mitford Snowmen (gift booklet)
by Jan Karon

Esther's Gift (gift booklet)
by Jan Karon

Simeon's Gift (children's)
by Julie Andrews

The Winter Mystery (novel)
by Faith Martin

Anthologies 

A Classic Christmas
A Collection of Timeless Stories and Poems
Thomas Nelson

Nature Tales for Winter Nights
Editor, Nancy Campbell

Christmas Classics
from the Modern Library
(excerpts, classic stories, poems, songs and carols)

Christmas in My Heart
A Timeless Treasury of Heartwarming Stories
by Joe Wheeler

Christmas Penhaligon's Scented Treasury
(poetry and prose excerpts)
Editor, Sheila Pickles

Christmas with Hot Apple Cider
Stories from the Season of Giving and Receiving
Editor, N.J. Lindquist

Christmas Miracles
Chicken Soup for the Soul Anthology

Christmas: Stories & More
InScribe Christian Writers' Fellowship
(I have a piece in this anthology)

Winter Anthology (nature essays and poems)
by Melissa Harrison

An Oxfordshire Christmas
compiled by David Green (unread)

Magazines

Bella Grace Magazines
Christmas/Winter Editions

Victoria Magazines
Christmas/Winter Editions

Country Living Collection
Christmas British Edition

Christmas!
A Collection of Favourite Seasonal Blog Posts
by Brenda Leyland
This is still available on Blurb.com



"Some Christmas tree ornaments do more than glitter and glow,
they represent a gift of love given a long time ago."
TOM BAKER



Wishing you a beautiful day,
Brenda
Photo credits:
(Top) Image by Anastasia538 from Pixabay

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