"Summer should get a speeding ticket."
UNKNOWN
The surge of adrenalin that comes now is more of anticipating what projects I might want to work on. As the light slants differently and evenings draw a little closer, one's thoughts turn more towards the home and being indoors. I think about what writing projects I might want to focus on, what home projects I want to tackle.
Here, with my latest Five on Friday, is a glimpse of what's been on my mind this week.
One. A week of 'dog days of summer'
Our summer weather has been decent. Many warm days, alongside cool, rainy, and windy ones. This week it has been hot and sultry in the true summer fashion. And we've been reveling in the heat. Sipping frosted glasses of sparkling water—especially the Maison Perrier non-alcoholic Mojito (citrus and mint) beverage. Refreshing! Sitting in the mornings with our coffees and listening to the chickadees busy with their chattering and fluttering off with sunflower seeds.
This afternoon we've got plans to visit the Italian Centre for affogatos—the Italian dessert where shots of espresso are served over gelato. Someone described it as "buttery notes of vanilla ice cream and bold accents of espresso". Yes, that describes them. And they are yum!
Two. A doily detail
This little doily under my pretty green thrift store vase is now more than 50 years old now. I was in high school when I crocheted it. I'd asked my grandma if she would teach me to crochet. She told me to select a pattern, so I browsed through her collection of pattern books. My heart was smitten with one I really loved – the biggest and most complicated in the book, if you want to know. She gently suggested that I might want to start with something simpler. And smaller. No, no, I was determined. I could do this. I can see her giving a gentle shrug. I started it enthusiastically and got as far as you see in the photo. When I graduated from high school, I packed my bags for college, deciding not to take the doily project with me as I probably wouldn’t have time to work on it. (I wonder now where Grandma found it stashed and forgotten in the excitement...)I came back at Christmas time, I don’t recall if it was my first Christmas away or the following year, but under the Christmas tree I found a little package wrapped and tagged with my name on it in Grandma’s handwriting. Inside was my little doily, at the stage where I had left it, except it had now had a simple edging to finish it off. Which meant I could use it. She must have sensed that I would never come back to finish this overly ambitious project, I think she would have been right. I was so overcome with emotion... love, I think it was, that she would do this for me. I have treasured this little doily ever since. It's still in use, even though doilies might be a little out of fashion.
Three. Musing about my old journals
Musing about my old journals, I wonder what I should do with them. One question that keeps coming up is as I think about getting rid of them, is why am I loathe to destroy them. The answer, simply said, it's because so much of my life is entwined in these words on hundreds upon hundreds of pages. To destroy them would feel like I'm destroying something of my soul. As you can see, it's a struggle, but as I get closer to my 70s there is a sense of urgency not to put it off too much longer.
I started keeping a journal nearly forty years ago (January 1987) the year I would turn 30. Up to that point, I'd written bits and pieces in scraps of notebooks. I came to realize I wanted something more stable, and more formal, I guess (L.M. Montgomery certainly was influential in this area of my writing). Since then I have filled nearly 200 'blank' notebooks in varying shapes, sizes, and styles. The books were always chosen for their appealing covers—they had to be pretty to look at, cute, or whimsical. They are mostly all tidily stacked in storage boxes in the closet of my study. The boxes are already worded (in the event of my untimely demise) with "To be destroyed on my death", with the sincere hope that I won't kick the bucket before I have a chance to create something from them for 'posterity', and not leave the mess of all those boxes for my family to deal with.
I think about what other people have done with their old journals. Susan Branch used her old diaries as research references for her now published memoirs (The Fairy Tale Girl, Martha's Vineyard: Isle of Dreams, and A Fine Romance). More recently, I read a biography about Louisa May Alcott. Did you know that she annotated her old journals? When re-reading them, she added little notes to explain things, to say how she later saw those events or experiences as she looked back. L.M. Montgomery knew her journals would be of literary interest down the road, since she was an author. Her editors published those volumes years later. From her notes penned in the first published journal, LMM had kept diaries since she was nine; she later burned them—she said they were "so silly" and "very dull". She began her "new kind of diary" in 1889 when she was 14. Eventually she re-wrote the earliest journals (written between 1889 and 1918 in various shapes and sizes) into ledger books, with the goal to rewrite them "careful[ly] to copy it exactly as it is written", and that she would "illustrate it" as she went along, with photos to describe scenes and people she had mentioned. Her journals are now published, and I am glad to own the five volumes of "Selected Journals" from 1889-1942.
Dealing with my old journals feels right to begin in the autumn season. It matches my own autumn season of life, where, although it can still be filled with colour, brightness, and fruitfulness, there is also a sense of waning... and winding up of many things.
I will try to keep you posted as I ponder more and begin the process. And I wouldn't mind hearing what plans you might have for your old journals, if you are a journaling person. Have you figured it out?
Four. Waiting for Miranda's book
For anyone who follows Miranda Mills on YouTube, you will know that she has her first book coming out this September. Like many of us, she loves collecting quotations, and The Country Commonplace Book is filled with her own favourite seasonal-themed passages. I've pre-ordered my copy and can't wait for its arrival later this autumn.
Five. Favourite quotes
Here are a few quotes I found in my 5-year quotes diary this morning which I enjoyed reading all over again. (I am surprised that I'm in the last quarter of year four already. At the end of 2026, I'll have five years' worth of quotes in one tiny diary. It's been a fun project.)
"You might not be a morning person or a night owl,
but with the right amount of coffee and snacks, you can
be an enjoyable afternoon person."
UNKNOWN, seen on Instagram
"If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your
face like sunbeams, and you will always look lovely."
ROALD DAHL, The Twits
"Just a heads up, I've decided to live my life like
everything is working out in my favor."
JACOB NORDBY, seen on Instagram
"What is it you want to write [do]
with the time remaining?"
SHAWNA LEMAY, The Flower Can Always Be Changing
"Live in each season as it passes; breathe the air,
drink the drink, taste the fruit, and resign
yourself to the influence of the earth."
HENRY DAVID THOREAU
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On that note, I'm wishing you a beautiful week ahead,
Brenda
Photo credits:
(Top) Sunflowers by Jill Wellington from Pixabay
(Drinking glasses) Image by Biella Biella from Pixabay
(Vase) Brenda Leyland @ It's A Beautiful Life
(Journals) Brenda Leyland @ It's A Beautiful Life
(Miranda's book cover) Amazon
(Hansa Rose) Brenda Leyland @ It's A Beautiful Life
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Hi Brenda. That doily looks very similar to a doily my grandma made me. I have so many that she and my mom made. I have chosen half of them (about nine?) and have arranged them on a long high table - I guess what many people call a sofa table - covered in a sheet of glass. They look quite pretty there against the brown of the table.
ReplyDeleteAlthough I haven't preordered my copy of Miranda's book yet, I do look forward to purchasing one, especially after she gave us a sneak peak on one of her Instagram videos.
As to journals, I can't help you there. My journalling has been very sporadic throughout my life. I probably have less than 10 true journals. But I do have lots of notebooks full of favourite poetry and quotes, etc. I could probably start my own commonplace book. After reading about your journal dilemma, I wondered which was worse, having to decide what to do with all of those journals, or not having any journals at all to worry about but then not remembering exactly how life-incidents took place because they were never written down. I admit to finding it not a big deal that I didn't record my life.
Finally, those quotes are priceless. Especially "Just a heads up, I've decided to live my life like everything is working out in my favor." Love it!
Wonderful end of August post. Thank you!
Thanks, Joy, for your lovely note. I have several doilies that my grandma made and gave me over the years. I really like your idea to have some arranged on your sofa table with glass covering them. A little display of 'art'. I found it interesting to hear that you haven't been much of a journal-er over your lifetime, and that it's not a big deal for you that you didn't record your life. Which makes me wonder why I did feel the need to do so.
DeleteHi Brenda, enjoyed your post today. My mom kept a “diary” she wrote in everyday, a kind of a time capsule. She used to reread them when she needed to jog her memory of a past event. I’m sure your family would treasure your journals but I can certainly understand they are of a personal nature and you want to keep them private. Difficult decision. I ‘m going to look for Miranda’s book. I’m not familiar with her on YouTube. Your doily is very pretty. What a lovely thing your grandmother did. I never learned to crochet but I did learn to knit. Loved your quotes, too. Well, we are almost into the “-ber” months, my favourite. Have a lovely long weekend . Hugs, Elaine (in Toronto)
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed your comment, Elaine, thanks so much for visiting. I did try to learn to knit years ago but never quite got the hang of it; in the end I preferred crocheting even though I didn't do much with it. Not like my grandma who was a prolific crocheter - she loved it. Hope you are enjoying the start of September. Here it's already cooler and the leaves are starting to turn and fall. One thing I love about autumn is being able to walk in the crunchy leaves. Did a little of that already this morning.
DeleteOh my goodness Brenda!!! 🤗I swear we both came from the same or at least similar container of DNA as EACH of your “”5” reflected SO much of “me and my thoughts!!!”☺️💗
ReplyDeleteMy #1😂: My “present “ journal has reached its last page!” I am trying to squeeze 1 more day in and will start a new one beginning with September! I love beginning in clear, seasonal sections! I loved seeing your photo of your journals , all 1 size !! I appreciated then reading your comment that you have had all shapes and sizes!! This last journal began with “”Well, back to a “big book!! “ “We’ll see how this works as I did decide a few years back that I really liked the smaller size!“ 🤣 So…. I will have to look at what empty journals I may have purchased already and quickly get ready for September 1st!!!☺️
2: I loved your description of “Adrenaline” as we begin to “think September” and find Summer drawing to a close. I retired as a Speech Language Pathologist who worked in the schools. As a young girl I loved shopping for new school supplies and I still do feel that adrenaline and happiness for my younger neighbors who also were getting ready for a new school year.☺️ I did feel that a few weeks ago as my younger friends were starting. This blog is all about the things we ponder that bring joy but I would feel remiss if I did not mention the great sadness I feel for the families of the school children in Minneapolis and now parents of school aged children and students everywhere. That is all I will say in this blog.
Now that I have “voiced” that feeling, it seems wrong to Segway into the other comments that I so loved. Related to “The Italian Center for Affagatos “ where is that??!! We have a beautiful hotel nearby that serves Affagatos. The hotel has a beautiful , long front porch and my Book Club friends love going to sit on the porch, sipping delicious Affagatos!☺️
3: Thank you for showing us Miranda Mill’s new book! The cover is LOVELY and I have been wanting a book with “Seasonal “ quotes for a long time!!!!!
4: ~ and I loved the picture of another “community member” here, who described her library table with her family doilies under glass. I have always treasured the doilies and embroidered pieces that I have been able to be “the keeper “ of.
Thank you again Brenda for bringing SO much end of the month JOY!!!!!!
SO thankful for your voice!!!
With love to you. ~ Ann, from Ohio.💗
Thanks, Ann, for your newsy note. I, too, am always happy when my journal fills so that I can start a new one on the first of a new month. Which doesn't happy very often, so it's a treat. Thank you for sharing that you were a Speech Language Pathologist in school. I hope you found it a rewarding work. And you mentioned the recent tragedy in Minneapolis - I am so sorry for those families - my heart aches for their loss.
DeleteYou asked about going to the Italian Centre for Affogatos. The Italian Centre is a combination grocery story along with a coffee shop, cafe, bakery, deli. Affogatos are an Italian dessert that has gelato (like ice cream) in a cup topped with a shot of espresso coffee. The contrast of sweet and coffee bitter, hot and cold, gelato solid to eat swimming in the coffee. It's a favourite treat in my books.
Thanks so much for stopping by! xo
"Summer should get a speeding ticket" brought a smile as well as a head nodding in agreement! Even though I am an autumn girl through and through, I am amazed at how quickly summer flew by this year. Lightening speed! I am thinking that I must go to my local gelato place and have an affogato. Sounds like a wonderful summer-into-fall thing to do! I loved the story of your doily and the love that it represents. Also smiling at (and relating to) the "afternoon person" quote! Happy first-day-of-September to you, Brenda!
ReplyDeleteI hope you did get a chance to enjoy an autumn affogato, Cheryl. Wishing you a beautiful September.
DeleteDear Brenda, I found your doily story very touching. I too have several that my Grandma made, and also some from my late husband's mother. I treasure them, and one small one especially. It sits by my bed with a glass of water on it. Thank you for another lovely 5 on Friday!
ReplyDeleteHow nice to have that little doily by your bedside for your glass of water. A lovely use for it. Thanks, Barbara, for stopping by. Hope you are well.
DeleteHi Brenda, Lorrie here. For some reason blogger won't allow me to sign in to comment. So frustrating.
ReplyDeleteYour first words, "Summer should get a speeding ticket" had me nodding along. Summer passed swiftly with many lovely moments.
I have a small collection of doilies, too. Some are from friends or family, others found in thrift stores. I use them occasionally. The story of your grandmother finishing your doily to make it functional is a sweet one.
Oh, the journals! I love using the style you've shown here with the exposed binding. Are the pages blank or lined? I prefer blank pages as sometimes I'll arrange the words differently, or rarely, do a little sketch.
I have not written in my journal as faithfully as you have. I had one at Briercrest that I destroyed before leaving there. Over the years I've found that when I write, my thoughts untangle and my mind smooths. It's a way to deal with sometimes unwelcome emotions and thoughts. Better to write than to take it out on others.
I also write to communicate my heart's desires to God. So often when I'm writing about daily events, my words become prayers for those I love, or for myself.
And I think I write to be known. Setting my words down on paper is a concrete act in a world where so much passes into the ether. Often, the only way women are acknowledged in history is through their journals and diaries. I have no such aspirations, but perhaps my children will be interested to read their mother's thoughts one day. I also take heart in knowing that God sees me and ultimately, he is my audience.
By the way, this post showed up on my Feedly in reasonable time.
I found much to relate to in your beautiful post, Brenda. My grandmother taught me to knit and crochet and it is a fond memory as she was very patient with me throughout (I took up crochet quite quickly but knitting was a struggle).
ReplyDeleteI'm also looking forward to Miranda's Country Commonplace Book. I've been inspired to start a commonplace book of my own. I don't journal and I've been looking for a better way to collect my ideas for poems and crafts and, of course, the writings and quotes of others. I'm excited.
Wishing you a leisurely week full of good things.
Amalia
xo