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Today I'm sharing a post by fellow blogger Clare Grant. She shares something that has often been a snag in my own life, that is, trying to get out of something I don't want to do. To have the courage to say No honestly, and without excuses, guilt, or shame ... or being ugly about it.
For some of us, that's hard to do, as we're so used to shoving away our own desires as being invalid. Somewhere along the way we've picked up the idea that it is selfish to say no.
Clare said it so simply that I asked if I could re-print her post here for you. Hope you enjoy.
"I'd love to do xyz but I don't have pqr."
If I really want to do xyz, I will move heaven and earth to find all the pqr I need.
If I pretend I can't do xyz because I don't have any pqr, people will start trying to help me find pqr, and then I will either end up sulking, or doing something that I didn't want to do in the first place.
There is no need to feel guilty about not doing xyz. It's not because I'm weak. It's not because I'm lazy. It's because I don't want to.
It is absolutely fine not to want to do things -- even things that seem fun, or are good for my body or my soul. I do not need an excuse. All I need to do is to be honest in the first place.
2010 by Clare Grant, who also posts at Three Beautiful Things
Reprinted with permission
Wishing you a beautiful day,