Have you ever thought about how you see yourself? Anna Johnson, author of Three Black Skirts says if we see ourselves as messy, disorganized, not good with paper, then we will have plenty of excuses to fall back on, and we'll keep affirming the current habit or situation.
Sometimes we don't see that we're the ones reinforcing our beliefs about ourselves by the words we keep saying over and over. When our mind and heart, consciously and sub-unconsciously, keep hearing things like, "I'm messy, I'm not good with grammar, I'm terrible at technical things", our inner self then strives to fulfill that message.
My Personal Experience. I used to say I was always tired. Every time I'd say I was tired, I'd feel even more tired. So I'd complain again about how weary I was, and every time I spoke the words, the more exhausted I felt.
One day it clicked that the more I confessed I was tired, the more exhausted I felt. I was actually perpetuating my tiredness by repeatedly telling myself that I felt that way. In essence, I was reaping the harvest of my words. So I stopped saying it. Believe me, it wasn't easy at first, I was so used to saying it all the time. But then gradually I began to notice a shift and my body started to actually feel less tired all the time.
Which is why it's important to watch our vocabulary, as well as to be aware of any thinking that we can't change things because we think that's just the way we are. But there's so much evidence out there these days that indicates we can shift our thinking, so there's no reason why we have continue that way, unless we truly prefer it.
If you're like me and ready to throw out the old excuses about why you are a certain way, look at what you're telling yourself and begin to change that unwanted message, and see if you don't begin to experience a shift. We don't have to be a victim of past habits -- we can change our minds for something better, something more beautiful.
Wishing you a beautiful day,